Also, I try to respond to these situations with love and care, but I hate when self-confidence gets marred or bruised because of something a boy said or because a girl tries to see herself through a boy’s eyes. Sure, yes, of course, I know. I’m guilty of this, too. But it doesn’t break my heart any less when a sister, perhaps even jokingly, talks about her flaws and insecurities, saying that she’s “forever alone”. How much more, then, would God’s heart break when He sees a precious child doubting her beauty and worth, when He Himself created her? Boy or no boy, He will never let her be alone, and that’s something a man can only promise her to try.
Another thing I’m guilty of, but trying to cut down on, is talking about the “perfect guy”. We will never see the perfect guy in his entirety until we’re, ideally, sitting on our rocking chairs, sipping our prune juice, and watching our grandchildren play. I was told once that what we are seeing right now is the process. Perhaps we can see the potential or character of someone up to this point, but if we’re looking for an end-product, we shouldn’t expect to find it. Not now. What we can do as sisters is encourage and strengthen our brothers, not just with mindless compliments, but with grace and truth, to use their potential to be the “perfect guy” for a future sister. We can honor the brothers, but we can also honor each other.
By looking at ourselves as sisters, daughters, friends, and not just as girls, we can learn to love and grow in bigger and more foundational ways. Let’s find our self-worth in the truth that we are co-heirs with Christ, daughters of the Most High, and creations of the Almighty.